How to........with an x-box 360 controller?

Ok first off my x-box 360 always works when it wonts to if we turn it off its gets the ring of death and then we wait like 3hours and it mite work again....so i am quick to have my controller to be first player but when my controller turns off somebody else is first player and i tried to turn their controller off and make my first and it wont work so if any body knows how i will be able to make my controller first agian please tell meHow to........with an x-box 360 controller?
first if you get the ring of death considre changing your xbox cuz its pretty bad for the xbox but im sorry i dont no about the first player thing sozHow to........with an x-box 360 controller?
take it to gamestop an get a discount on a ps3